Prayer is partnering with God in what He wants to accomplish together with us. It is like parents enjoy making something with their children. We don’t want to do it all by ourselves for them, even though we can. We want our children to grow in those times of working with us on the same project. We might have to initiate the wonderful idea and work hard in helping them to finish it, but we revel in the achievement of what we make together with our children. It is a family affair. Our faces would beam with pride when they stay with us till the end of that project. Our Heavenly Father has to level the mountains and raise some valleys for us whenever we pray, but He is always so proud of us when we stay on and do not give up on our “working with Him” through our prayers. With our minimum effort, we see the maximum benefit from Him.
A lot of times we do not see clearly what we need ahead of time. As I prayed for the man God is bringing into my life, I have started a journey with Him. Have you ever stepped onto a walking machine and turned on the start button? I felt like I started walking towards the right direction in my prayer at the right speed as I ventured on this course of my life with Father.
The Lord gave me several dreams about the man I was going to marry. I knew that he is a New Zealander, but I did not know who as yet. Dave and I met in my first year of working with a Mission Organization. It was not love at first sight. As a matter of fact, I did not like him the first time I met him. I did not like how much faster I had to walk whenever we had to go places in Hong Kong. I thought he was too intense for me. Guess it was not time to stir up love in our hearts for each other then. It took me about 2 years to realise that Dave was the man, God was matchmaking me with.
Every end of the year, I would spend time asking the Lord what He has planned for me for the next year. I would welcome Him into my new year and be in charge of my life. As I approached Father on the New Year Eve of 1995, I clearly received these thoughts from the Holy Spirit – “you will return to New Zealand by the end of next year. Your status will change.” I found that very amusing as I have no plans to go to New Zealand and I was not seeing anyone. I decided to rationalise to myself that God must be talking about my spiritual status. It is impossible that my marital status will change so quickly.
By the end of 1994, I had the opportunity to get to know Dave a little better, as he spent a few days in Kuala Lumpur to look into the work we were doing. I saw that we were pretty alike in our spiritual giftings. A new interest was rising within me, but still, I decided that our future seems somewhat incompatible. I laid my desire down afresh, wanting only what God was preparing me for.
The Lord gave me another instruction in 1995, which was a life-changing direction for me. He told me to resign from my work. He will tell me what is next only after I have resigned. With that in mind, I went to Hong Kong for my last prayer team orientation. I tendered my resignation with one of the Directors and suddenly it was like heaven just opened up with wedding preparation instantly.
Dave and I very quickly came to the revelation that we were very fond of each other. When Dave approached me about advancing our relationship further, I knew in my heart that he was the one, God had been preparing for me. When we asked the Lord what His desire was for our relationship, the answer He gave to Dave was that yes, he can marry me provided he lay down his life for me as Christ laid down his life for the church! If you remember my Part 1 testimony, you will see how God was speaking my language. That was what I have asked for, from the man who is going to marry me.
We were engaged that year and wedding plans were all set in New Zealand. In order for Malaysia to recognise our marriage, we needed to register with the Registrar of Marriage in Kuala Lumpur before we flew out to New Zealand for our church wedding. By the end of 1995, my marital status was changed. Legally, I was no longer single, but a married woman. Dave & I did wait till we had the church wedding before we live as a married couple. And yes, by December, I was walking the beach with Dave in New Zealand. Everything that the Lord spoke to me on the New Year’s eve of 1995 came to pass. Next January, we will be celebrating our 26 years of marriage. We are so thankful to the matchmaking of our Father God.
There are many testimonies I could share here, but I wanted this to be short. I will leave you with this testimony to the glory of our Father’s goodness. My courtship with my husband was pretty short and when things moved too fast to my liking, I would feel a little anxious. There were friends who were doubting and saying words that brought fear to my heart as well. Whenever my mind started to race with concern, Father would remind me of a scripture, a vision or a dream that He had given me previously. The last day I was in our Hong Kong office helping Dave to pack up, God reminded me of a dream that I had before we started our relationship. In my dream, Dave was seated in his office chair, while I was standing in front of him and we were holding hands as if there was an intimacy between us. I had forgotten this dream. This scene in my dream was exactly what happened on the last day in Dave’s Hong Kong office.
If you are walking in a relationship and you have a concern, trust God to direct you. He knows your past, your present and your future.
Psalms 139:5 (TPT)
“You’ve gone into my future to prepare the way,
and in kindness, you follow behind me
to spare me from the harm of my past.
With your hand of love upon my life,
you impart a blessing to me.”
Your Heavenly Father wants to bless you. If you need to rededicate your life to Him or if you don’t know Jesus, His Son, today is a good day to ask Jesus into your life. Father wants to give you a wonderful spouse. Start asking Him to be your Matchmaker 🙂
I bless you with listening ears to the voice of your Good Father.